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Isehara Retreat Day 2 — The Five Mantras: A Present For a Loved One
To make yourself available to the person you love, free yourself from preoccupations by practicing mindful breathing to bring body and mind together. Once you have breathed in and out three times, you offer your true presence by saying, “Darling, I am there for you.” Hugging meditation involves hugging in mindfulness: breathing deeply, bowing, and recognizing that the person you love is alive in your arms. Mindfulness helps us recognize the true presence of the other, whether it is a person, the cherry blossoms, or the full moon. When presence is acknowledged, happiness arises. The second mantra is pronounced after deep concentration: “Darling, I know you are there and I am very happy.”
A true lover is capable of being aware of the suffering the other person undergoes. The third mantra relieves this suffering through true presence: “Darling, I know you suffer. That is why I am there for you.” The fourth mantra is used when you suffer, even if you believe the suffering comes from the person you love. Pride often blocks the way, but it is necessary to say: “Darling, I suffer so much. Please help.” The story of Mr. Truong illustrates the danger of wrong perception and pride. A soldier returns home, but his son refuses to call him father, claiming his daddy comes every night. The soldier’s coldness drives his wife to suicide, only for him to later realize the “daddy” was his wife’s shadow on the wall.
To restore communication, practice mindful breathing and deep listening. The Bodhisattva Avalokiteshvara listens with calm and compassion, not to argue, judge, or blame, but solely to relieve suffering. Even when the other person speaks with anger, bitterness, or violence, mindful breathing helps retain calm. Finally, the miracle is not to walk on air or water, but to walk on earth. Walk as a free person, free from worries, the past, and the future, enjoying every step so that a lotus flower blooms with each movement.
